Solitude

Alone time- what a beautiful time of day that is/or minute depending on your lifestyle.  I always made time for myself which was easy when I wasn’t married and didn’t have a child.  But now that my lifestyle has changed I need to be more creative when it comes to finding alone time because finding a quiet moment can be like finding a pot of gold at the end of the rainbow.

The best time for me to find solitude is in the morning.  I wake a couple of hours earlier than my family.  And for the next two hours I am free.

I find having time for myself helps me start the day off on the right foot.  As I am able to clear my mind and check in with myself.  Next I stretch because there is always a spot where I am stiff and sore.  Then I check my thoughts – am I starting the day off with gratitude?  Or do I have anxiety and worry on my mind?

Some mornings I spend time cheering myself on, and if I’m not in a cheerful mood I listen to you tube videos on positive affirmations so I can shift my thoughts into positive ones.  I find this is the easiest way to shift my energy from a low to high. 

Be sure to be good to yourself today and find some time to sneak away from the madness.  Check in with yourself – listen to your thoughts and make any necessary changes to make sure you are on the right path to serenity. 

Life is a beach 

Last night my husband wanted me to go to the beach with him and our daughter.  Go to beach?  It’s 6:00pm on a Wednesday!  I can’t go to the beach.

The excuse that it was a week night- the excuse that I had to prepare dinner – and the list went on and on.  My husband was clearly disappointed and left to go upstairs to his office.

I felt sad.  Why was I depriving myself and my family from enjoying ourselves?  I love spending time with my family – I love the beach and watching my daughter play on the swings.  Dinner wasn’t made – nothing was defrosted we could always pick up dinner on the way back home.

I called up to my husband and told him we would be leaving in 10 minutes.  I packed a beach bag and we headed to the beach.  

We had a lovely time at the beach.  It was so nice to enjoy the ocean air and walk in the sand.  My heart grew watching my daughter laugh and smile while my husband pushed her on the swings.  

I was so happy that I didn’t let my excuses rob my family from joy and happiness.  And grateful that I chose to live life to the fullest as tomorrow is not guaranteed.

Expectations 

How to avoid disappointment?  That’s easy get rid of your assumptions.  When we have no expectations we can not be disappointed.

The meaning of disappointment is “the feeling of sadness or displeasure caused by the nonfulfillment one’s hope and expectation”.  

Our expectations are stopping us from reaching our happy place and robbing us from the element of surprise.

It’s my party and I’ll cry if I want to – so many of us get depressed on our birthday because we have so many expectations from the day and others.   

We need to stop setting ourselves up for disappointment.  And know that we are right where we are suppose to be.  The past is gone and tomorrow should not be a concern instead we need to live today in gratitude.

What are your thoughts saying?

I was feeling overwhelmed and stressed out over the amount of work I had.  I was in a funk and complaining a lot about the house work and the pressures of being a Mom and a wife.  Most days I was great but I had a short fuse.

Then I broke my collarbone and I was not able to use my left arm or hold anything heavy, including my toddler.  I felt depressed and sorry for myself.

As time went on I started to feel better and started to do more around the house.  The chores I dreaded were now rewards and accomplishments.  I gave thanks for everything I was able to complete.

Today I’m happy to report that I’m healed, and back to my normal routine.  The things I use to complain about are the things I am grateful for.  I give thanks to my strong body.  I give thanks that I’m able to hold my child again.  And I give thanks for my wonderful husband.

My complaining was clouding my thoughts and sending negative affirmations to the universe blocking what I want in life: health, peace, and happiness.

Studies show that our thoughts create our reality. Take a moment today to quiet your mind and make your thoughts your blessings.

Best friend or Frenemy?

I was listening to Louise Hay on you tube discussing positive affirmations.  She said “your thoughts are your best friend”.

This was a new concept for me – yes my thoughts should be my best friend but most of us will agree that our thoughts don’t always resemble a best friend but rather a frenemy. With self criticism that slows us down and causes self doubt. 

A best friend adores you – says how amazing you are, and always has your back. So why not make our thoughts our best friend?!   With enough practice we can change our thoughts to be in our favor.  And become our biggest fan.  

To practice positive affirmations: go to fellow blogger website master of something yet.com to read the best of friends 

masterofsomethingyet.com/2017/03/05/best-friends

Dear daughter 

The day you arrived was the best day of my life

We were old friends by then and didn’t need any introductions

You knew I was your Mother as you held me tight  
You’re my little old soul who does everything right 

For so many reasons I love you 

I promise to hold your hand in this journey of life and let go when the time is right 

Thank you for all the love and joy you bring me
I am honored to be your Mother 

Friendships

Friends and family are very important to me. Every Sunday my family comes together to eat, laugh and share stories.  

On the holidays we include the larger family and our friends to celebrate with us. It’s alot of work but it’s fun and the memories we make our priceless.

Many of us work long hours and only have the weekends to catch up on the housework and rest.  But it’s also important to make time for friends and family. 

Just recently I hosted a dinner party and over casual conversation was able to see a situation that I hadn’t noticed.  This realization will save me a lot of time and get me to my destination faster.  

By slowing down, talking, and listening I was able to see something in my life  I probably would have missed if it weren’t for my friend pointing it out.  

I know it’s not always easy finding the time to make plans, and putting in the effort to host does require energy.  But the benefits of being around friends and family make it all worth it.

So pick up the phone and make plans to get together with the ones you love and celebrate life.  You won’t regret it.