Guilt has always been my poison. For years I would go over the day’s events before bed looking for something I did wrong and can feel bad about. And if that didn’t work I would go over my to do list to see if I forgot something important and stress over it.
This self sabotaging behavior was not doing me any good. I had to learn to let go and not over analysis everything I said and did. And stop being so hard on myself.
I no longer allow myself to be self critical to that degree and if I do go there I take deep breaths which usually helps me relax and let go of any anxiety. Then I replace negative thoughts with positive ones. I also talk myself up and handle my fears with compassion.
I strive for perfection but I know I will never achieve it. And that’s ok because I’m perfect just the way I am.