I recently heard a wonderful woman say that relationships constantly change because we ourselves change. So what has worked in the past, might not work in the present. This woman just celebrated 43 years of marriage.
I’m not sure why what she said surprised me. It makes a lot of sense we do change and grow. So it would make sense that we need to take that into account when we are in a relationship.
Often times you will hear couples say that “things have changed” and it’s almost in a negative light. For example “we have children now so we don’t have time for eachother”. Or “my husband just retired and he’s always home now and he should be helping more with the housework”. The list goes on and on.
Many people are scared of change and this can test a relationship. Instead of holding on to “the way things were” we need to be flexible and make tweaks in our relationship in order to make it work.
Remember to celebrate life changes, and milestones. And to listen – really listen to eachother and allow our relationship to grow and change as we do.