What are your thoughts saying?

I was feeling overwhelmed and stressed out over the amount of work I had.  I was in a funk and complaining a lot about the house work and the pressures of being a Mom and a wife.  Most days I was great but I had a short fuse.

Then I broke my collarbone and I was not able to use my left arm or hold anything heavy, including my toddler.  I felt depressed and sorry for myself.

As time went on I started to feel better and started to do more around the house.  The chores I dreaded were now rewards and accomplishments.  I gave thanks for everything I was able to complete.

Today I’m happy to report that I’m healed, and back to my normal routine.  The things I use to complain about are the things I am grateful for.  I give thanks to my strong body.  I give thanks that I’m able to hold my child again.  And I give thanks for my wonderful husband.

My complaining was clouding my thoughts and sending negative affirmations to the universe blocking what I want in life: health, peace, and happiness.

Studies show that our thoughts create our reality. Take a moment today to quiet your mind and make your thoughts your blessings.

Spring break with our two year old 

A couple of weeks ago we took our two year daughter to Puerto Rico and had a fabulous time. 

The plane ride over is always a little stressful but we managed to keep her happy by giving her the iPad with her favorite shows we downloaded and new toys (miniature paw patrol set, Melissa and Doug invisible ink coloring book) and lots of snacks.

When we arrived we picked up our rental car with a car seat.  Renting a car was the best decision – as we made frequent trips to the grocery store, Walgreens, as well as day trips to San Juan and drives through the rainforest during her naps.

We loved our resort esspecially because we booked a suite with a kitchen.  The kitchen was key as it was easy for me to make breakfast (before the breakfast buffet was open).   And her favorite pasta, snacks and warm milk bottles for nap time.  The grocery store was close by which made it easy to pick up food and wine which costed $10 a bottle instead of $12 a drink at the resort.  We also picked up diapers – baby shampoo and other items I didn’t want to pack as it costed the same to purchase there.

My husband did pack the Apple TV which was the best thing we brought because our daughter was able to watch her favorite shows while getting ready in the morning or  when we came back home from our activities.  It also brought her a sense of peace.  If you haven’t invested in an Apple TV please do – it’s much cheaper than cable and the box is wallet size so it’s easy to travel with.  

Our daughter loved being away.  She was very happy with the pool but more excited for the beach which allowed her to play in the sand and stroll in the ocean which was calm and warm.   I was surprised that she didn’t mind the sand as she usually gives me her hands to wash often saying “mess”.  

Our vacation was exactly what me and my husband needed.  It felt so good to be away from the rain and cold weather we left back home.  And to be honest we were getting cabin fever which meant more arguments.  We decided we needed a vacation and we are so glad we went as it was the best therapy.   My husband looked at me differently in my new summer wardrobe  giving me compliments and bringing the passion back into our marriage.  The best part was having our daughter with us which reminded us how blessed we are.  

I hope this blog has convinced you to take a vacation.  Please feel free to send me any questions or concerns you may have traveling with a toddler.  

The Universe is listening

From a very young age I told the world that I was not going to be married or be a mother until my late 30s.  I was going to go to a good University and then have a good paying job  on Wall street and live in NYC.  That was my goal, my dream.

My parents married at 17 years old, I believe it was because my mother was pressured and dared into it.  Before my mother left Italy with her family for America she started dating my father.  When my mother expressed to her parents that she wanted to be with her boyfriend they gave her an ultimatum marry him or move on.  She called them on it and married my father after 3 dates and 42 years later they are still happily married.  But I noticed that marriage was tough it took work, dedication and when my mother had twin daughters instead of the boy the Doctors told her, she knew that this role as a mother was a serious one and its pay was lousy.  I was going to make money and achieve big goals.

I was  lucky enough to attend a decent University and worked for some impressive financial  firms on Wall Street.  Then around the age of 35 I wondered when was I going to meet Mr. Right and be a Mom?  Up until now I never worried about it but now that my biological clock was ticking I thought to myself is this it?   Will I ever be a Mom?

Two year later I met my husband and a year later I became pregnant with my daughter.  I am happy to report that I achieved everything I set my mind to and if I only hang on for a bit longer I could have avoided that doubt and self pity.  Because the universe listened and gave me exactly what I asked for.