I was feeling overwhelmed and stressed out over the amount of work I had. I was in a funk and complaining a lot about the house work and the pressures of being a Mom and a wife. Most days I was great but I had a short fuse.
Then I broke my collarbone and I was not able to use my left arm or hold anything heavy, including my toddler. I felt depressed and sorry for myself.
As time went on I started to feel better and started to do more around the house. The chores I dreaded were now rewards and accomplishments. I gave thanks for everything I was able to complete.
Today I’m happy to report that I’m healed, and back to my normal routine. The things I use to complain about are the things I am grateful for. I give thanks to my strong body. I give thanks that I’m able to hold my child again. And I give thanks for my wonderful husband.
My complaining was clouding my thoughts and sending negative affirmations to the universe blocking what I want in life: health, peace, and happiness.
Studies show that our thoughts create our reality. Take a moment today to quiet your mind and make your thoughts your blessings.
Earlier this week I received a phone call from a friend who was stressed out. She was swamped at work and in a funk because she didn’t do anything special for her children for Valentine’s Day. So instead of sleeping she decided to stay up late that night to make heart shape brownies and cookies for the girls and decorate the house. I was baffled – why would she risk not sleeping to bake? Wouldn’t she feel tired and cranky the next day?
That is when I realized I was not that kind of mom. You know the mothers that do the “extras”. The mothers who puts their children to bed and bake and decorate all night for the holidays despite how tired they are. I know so many mothers who are sleep deprived and stressed out because they need to do the “extras”.
I am not one of those mothers that bakes ten varieties of Christmas cookies. I am not one of those mothers that spends countless hours decorating for the holidays. Last year we did not put up a Christmas tree due to the stress of falling pine needles and me needing to vaccum everyday (my 20 month old daughter hates the vaccum so that would be a headache). My point is I’m not one of those moms who stresses over the “extras”.
Being a Mom is stressful enough without putting more pressure on myself. Everyday I cook three healthy meals for my family, I take care of the house, bills, and the list goes on and on. To stay sane I outsource the “extras” by finding ways to give my daughter those experiences without stressing myself out. For example my daughter helped my sister and her daughters decorate their tree. And we all helped decorate my parents tree.
I sometimes wish I was more like my friend who puts up three Christmas trees, stays up all night baking cookies and ordering matching holiday dresses. Maybe one day I’ll be that Mom.
Readers: What are the extras you do or don’t do? Any tips on how to do the extras without the added stress? Do you feel guilty if you choose sleep over the “extras”.
Yesterday my daughter asked me for a cookie. I was happy to give her a treat because she has been so good dealing with my injure. My husband intervene saying it was too early for junk food please have a banana instead. I tried to explain to him that its a mini oreo cookie but he didn’t want to hear it. At that point my daughter who already had the cookie in her hand threw out the cookie and took the banana for her snack. I was so proud that our 23 month old daughter made the right food choice and knew the difference between good food and processed junk.
It’s not always easy to distinguish healthy vs processed food. I mistakenly ate foods that I thought were good for me but then harmed my skin and metabolism. In my 20 and 30s I suffered from severe eczema and believe stress and diet had a lot to do with it. I thought I was eating healthy foods but the more I researched my food choices the more I learned how processed the food was. I would buy quick and easy food choices such as kabashi-purdue chicken nuggets- turkey cold cuts- 90 second cooked rice – cooked chicken, spinach and feta burgers. So much of the food I was eating was processed food that my body was not able to break down.
My husband and I keep each other in check with making healthy food choices. Our meal plan for the week consists of fresh fruits and vegetables, fresh lean meats, eggs, pasta, chicken broth base soups, stir frys, and fish (salmon or cod). We always enjoy cooking together and making our own meals allows us to make good food choices that benefits our taste buds, bodies and minds.
Due to my injure we decided to start using blue apron. Our first order will arrive on Valentine’s Day. This will take out the guess work out of “what’s for dinner” and save us time by not having to go to the grocery store. Also will bring more excitement to our normal dinners by introducing new receipes with all fresh ingredients will help us eat healthy too.